During the lecture this week, the instructor began by mentioning some cultural differences that exist around the world, in general, and in terms of human relations and sensuality. The delivery was a little choppy and difficult for me to follow at times, but the information was good, nonetheless.
From cultural variance, she went on to describe the situation in which we all live, applying societal values and viewpoints to ourselves, and accepting them as our own individual identities. These are things we think we can’t change. We will often say, “That’s just the way I am,” or something similar, but if there’s an aspect of our lives or personalities we would like to alter, the fact is that it CAN be done. We just have to take notice of those things, recognize that we’d like to change them, discover the way in which we’d like them to change, and train ourselves to do so. There are tons of examples of doing this throughout our lives: at the (general) age of 15, we notice that we’re getting close to the legal age to drive, recognize that we’d like to be able to drive once we hit the age of 16, discover that we need to learn to drive, and take driver’s ed courses or have our parents teach us to drive in order to pass the test and receive a driver’s license around our 16th birthdays, in order to legally be able to drive.
For the purposes of this course, The Welcomed Consensus recommends sensual Training. It sounds a little bizarre at first, because we’re all conditioned to believe that sensual and sexual experiences come naturally; that we’re all born knowing how it works. However, we all judge ourselves very critically on our sexual abilities, and while there are places to train in cooking, painting, sewing, swimming, and nearly everything else we want to learn or improve, there’s not really any place to train for sensuality. That’s where this class comes in. Training, according to their definition, is merely “doing things on purpose, being aware, intentionally adding to” the knowledge or skill that you already possess. We can intentionally become more aware of our senses and do things on purpose to hone our sexual skills. We just have to focus on that idea…becoming more aware.