Week 5 in the sensuality course offered by The Welcomed Consensus begins with information on homologous sex organs. All fetuses start out female, and it’s not until the sixth week that differentiation of cells begin to form sex-specific organs, so each part of sexual anatomy in the female is homologous to a part of sexual anatomy in the male. It’s helpful to know that information, and understand how male and female organs are similar.
From there, the lecture journeys into the way the vaginal cavity is formed and how it changes, from the relaxed state of a collapsed tube to the tense state of a balloon. When the vagina is tense, it balloons out, preventing friction and touch, so in order to increase your orgasm, maintain a relaxed state. You’ll feel more and heighten sensation. Who doesn’t love that idea? Relax. Feel more. Have a better orgasm.
There are videos in this week’s assignments regarding Deliberate Orgasm, offering specific instruction on how to DO a woman, as well as how to DO a man. While all of the setup seems like simply an extravagantly romantic encounter between two people, the direct genital strokes they recommend may not work well for everyone. I can’t imagine feeling pleasure with the very first genital contact from my partner being direct clitoral contact, with my hood pulled back. To me, that idea is excruciating. I also can’t imagine my partner continuing to stroke my clitoris based on my partner’s perception of my body, AFTER I say, “Please Stop. It’s too sensitive.” Not only would that be less than pleasurable in the physical sense, it would also piss me off. If the purpose of Deliberate Orgasm is for both people to focus on one person’s pleasure, then direct contact with a spot the focus person says is too sensitive seems a bit oxymoronic with regard to the purpose. That seems like more of a focus on the power of the person giving, rather than a focus on the pleasure of the person receiving.
So, while the training offered by this course can absolutely increase self-awareness and enlighten sensation, the specifics may need to be tweaked in order to fit into your life.