Sexual myths exist in just about every culture and country in the world. Some of these misconceptions have perpetuated for hundreds, or even thousands, of years. There are so many that it can be difficult to differentiate between fact and fiction. So, let’s dispel three of the most common myths of the 21st century.
1. There is no such thing as a G-spot.
While there’s still scientific debate over what exactly the G-spot is, its presence has been widely accepted. What we know for certain is that the G-spot is the fleshy section located one to three inches inside of the vagina on the front wall, and its exact placement may move over time.
Formally known as the Gräfenberg Spot, this source of incredible pleasure was named after Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg. He was the first modern physician to substantiate its significance in female sexual pleasure.
Scientists have yet to confirm whether the G-spot is a group of glands and ducts clustered around the urethra, or the point at which the nerves of the clitoris intersect with vaginal tissue on their way to the spinal column. Some even believe that the G-spot is a female prostate gland because, when stimulated, it may provoke an orgasmic ejaculation – a release of clear fluid through the urethra. Not all women ejaculate when experiencing a G-spot orgasm, and female ejaculation is actually possible without the woman experiencing an orgasm. If you do experience female ejaculation, don’t worry. The fluid will not stain the sheets.
Tip for locating your G-spot:
Lie comfortably on your back and insert a finger or two, with your palm up toward the ceiling. Make a “come hither” motion with your finger(s). The G-spot tends to swell when massaged, much like the erectile tissue of a penis. Experts recommend that you become aroused prior to the search, as the G-spot area will be easier to locate.
As you explore the inside of your vagina, you’ll notice that the walls feel much like the inside of the cheeks of your mouth. Once you feel a fleshy area that’s texture resembles the roof of your mouth, but rougher, you’ve discovered your G-spot. (Congratulations!!!)
Don’t worry if your first try is unsuccessful. This is a search worth much dedication. Keep in mind, too, that you may encounter a feeling that you have to urinate. This is quite common and actually a good sign that you’re on your way to achieving the mysterious G-spot orgasm! In fact, that sensation can be the prequel to female ejaculation. It may be a good idea to use the restroom prior to G-spot play, so that you relieve any anxiety that would arise when you have that urination sensation.
You may even want to ask your partner to help you locate your G-spot. Or, you may prefer to go it alone. Both options are equally valid; however, whether alone or with a significant other, enhancing your awareness of the G-spot can be assisted with the right sensual toys and Passion Parties’ exclusive RomantaTherapy G-Spot Crème. The unique product contains rich ingredients that interact with your G-spot and promote a higher awareness of sexual sensitivity, enabling greater erotic pleasure.
If you would like to maximize your G-spot experience further, incorporate one of Passion Parties’ many G-spot vibrators, such as the new Genie, or the Lelo Ina 2. (Check my YouTube channel for product videos on both of these coming soon!) Their specially curved tips are designed to target “that” spot.
2. Only homosexual males enjoy anal play.
The mind-blowing orgasm that can result from a prostate massage does not discriminate. Many men enjoy this type of pleasure, regardless of race, age or sexual orientation. Unfortunately, it’s still taboo in some cultures. But, that’s beginning to change, as more men are opening up to a whole new world of bliss!
Also referred to as the “He-spot,” the prostate gland is a small gland, about the size and shape of a quail’s egg. Nestled in the male pubic bone and surrounded by the pelvic muscles, the prostate gland responds to pressure applied through the rectum. When massaged correctly, it can generate amazing orgasms!
What many don’t know is that prostate massage has been used for centuries, and for two purposes: intense sexual pleasure, and the promotion of health in the prostate gland.
Some men experience crashing orgasms when their prostate gland is stimulated, while others don’t. Some men don’t enjoy the sensation at all, while others could take it or leave it. Every body is different. If you are unsure about your lover’s feelings toward this type of sensation, try it! Worst case scenario: He does not like it, and you never try it again. Big deal. Just be sure to discuss it with him first, and get his go-ahead. This isn’t the type of activity to slip in as a surprise.
Passion Parties offers many prostate massage toys, which can assist you or your partner in stimulating the He-spot, including the Onyx Adventure, curved, graduated, and specifically designed for prostate massage.
Tips for stimulating his prostate gland:
First, cleanse his anal area, as well as your finger or the toy to be used. Ensure that he is relaxed prior to anal play. A great way to do this is by offering a full body massage, followed by manual stimulation of his penis.
Once he is relaxed, apply a generous amount of lubricant to the anal area. Reach down between his legs and insert either an index finger or the prostate massage toy into his anus and press forward, in a firm motion. The prostate is located on the front part of the rectal wall, similar to the location of the G-spot in the vaginal cavity.
Press gently. If your lover enjoys the sensation, press a little more firmly. Your partner might find pleasure in a “shunting” sensation, experienced by smooth, rapid insertion and removal of the finger or toy.
If, at any point, your partner experiences discomfort, ease off a bit. Should he experience pain or express displeasure, immediately stop.
It can take a few tries to get used to the sensations associated with anal play. Always respect his boundaries.
A fantastic addition to the experience is our new and exclusive He-Spot Gel, designed to intensify his pleasure by enhancing blood flow to the prostate area.
3. Simultaneous orgasm never happens.
While it’s certainly not a guaranteed or particularly common occurrence, enjoying shared orgasms with your partner at the exact same time is absolutely possible to achieve. However, it can take some work to get it right…
After all, understanding our orgasms can be a complex matter…Add the orgasms of a partner into the equation, and you’ve got one Rubik’s Cube of sexual confusion! For those who struggle to orgasm on a regular basis, orgasm (and sex in general) can be a stressful endeavor. And, for new couples, there is a learning curve associated with understanding one another’s wants and needs, and then building a fulfilling sexual relationship…
The point is, you shouldn’t necessarily strive for simultaneous orgasm until you and your partner overcome your sexual quirks and any accompanied anxiety. That’s not to say that those who don’t orgasm on a regular basis shouldn’t pursue simultaneous orgasm. By all means, go for it! But, if you’re stressed out about sex, don’t have a clear mindset, or aren’t yet at a comfortable level with your partner, you probably won’t achieve any kind of orgasm at all.
Are you ready to add “simultaneous orgasm” to your bucket list? Good for you! Just remember that it’s not the end-all, be-all of sexual pleasure. If you achieve it, great. If not, that’s okay, too – there are plenty of other sexual adventures to check off your list…and plenty of time to practice!
Tips for improving your odds of achieving simultaneous orgasm:
Make it an evening of mutual pleasure. The experience is about both of you. Start out by showing one another how you like to be touched. You go first; your partner goes next.
Follow with simultaneous foreplay. Stimulate your partner while s/he stimulates you at the same time. Don’t think about your next move. Just focus on the moment. Enjoy every sensation.
Remember that it’s easy for men to reach climax before women, so if your partner is male, be sure to have him communicate to you if he’s getting close to orgasm. (And if you’re male, communicate with your partner.) If he is, stop manually stimulating him for awhile, and just let him focus on you. As he’s stimulating you, let him know how it feels. This experience is still about both of you, even if only one of you is receiving sexual attention. Verbally communicate to your partner how much you’re enjoying the amazing sensations.
You may experience dual-orgasm during manual stimulation. Whether you do or don’t, we still recommend you move on to the next step: intercourse.
Before you slip your partner (or a toy, if that’s the appropriate situation) inside of you, check that you are both well lubricated. (There are a plethora of water-based lubricants and a couple of amazing silicone based lubricants in our product line, and I’m happy to provide a recommendation of which is best for you!) Incorporate one of our sexual enhancements like the We-Vibe III or Lelo Tor 2. The We-Vibe is the first-ever toy designed to be worn inside during intercourse, and stimulates all the right places at once…during sex! And the We-Vibe III has a remote control for ease of use! The Lelo Tor 2 is a vibrating couple’s ring that helps maintain an erection and delay orgasm, while delivering sweet vibrations to your clitoris. It can be worn as a condom belt, in the center of a double-ended dildo to prevent toy slippage, and will turn your favorite penis or dildo into an instant vibrator! Just as advised above regarding manual stimulation, communication is key!
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