As we begin 2014, we will all make resolutions, whether or not we call them by their proper title. A new year is a new beginning. The academic year has a break between semesters, the financial year ends and begins anew, and psychologically, though it’s just one day further in time, New Year’s Day gives us a fresh start on getting those things we want most in life.
This year, I have several resolutions, but one of the most important resolutions I’m making is one that I hope you’ll make with me. Let’s make 2014 a year full of good sex! In order for me to play my part in making this resolution a reality, a few things will have to fall into place: I need to become more in tune with myself and my body, I need to become more in tune with my partner and her body. (Yes, for those of you who don’t know me personally and haven’t paid enough attention to my very few outwardly portrayed political posts, I am a lesbian. *GASP* I know. It’s crazy. The gay’s are everywhere!) And I can only assume that for you to make this resolution with me, you’ll need to take some similar steps. That’s where the relationship between you and me comes into play.
As your Passion Consultant, I commit to helping you have a year full of good sex. Now, I realize I could have said “great sex” instead, but I am intentionally opting for “good sex” because I’m realistic. I know it’s not going to be possible to have mind-blowing orgasms every time, it’s not going to be possible to be 100% connected to ourselves and our partners every time, and it’s not going to be possible to be in the moment every time. We’re human. We get distracted. Sometimes, we do things even when we don’t feel like it. And I’m not saying sex should be a chore, but it should be a priority. This year, a year full of good sex is a priority. I’m working with the concept that there will be some fan-fucking-tastic sex had in 2014, and some so-so sex had in 2014, so it will all balance out to a year full of good sex.
Why make this resolution public? Because you trust me. Because you look to me for sexuality and relationship advice, and if I’m going to help you with your sex life, I had better make my own pretty damn important. And because so much goes into a healthy, fulfilling sex life that forms a good, solid foundation for a sustainable relationship, that it is necessary for all of us to put a higher priority on our most intimate relationships.
I’m here as your guide through the murky waters of sexuality and relationships, but I can only lead you to where I’m going. So, here’s to 2014 – a year full of good sex! Cheers!