Finding Your Big O

 

 

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Ahhh… The orgasm!

Who doesn’t love the toe curling, body convulsing, extreme ecstasy of an intense climax?

Unfortunately, female orgasms can be hard to come by.  But ladies, don’t despair.  First of all, if you do have a hard time climaxing, know that you are not alone.  According to Planned Parenthood, one in three women have trouble reaching orgasm when having sex, and as many as 80% of women have difficulty climaxing from vaginal intercourse alone.  Those are staggering statistics.  Especially considering that 90% of men orgasm every time they have intercourse.

Second of all, just because you may have a hard time reaching orgasm while making love doesn’t mean you’ll have a hard time reaching orgasm n all situations.

Just like women come in all different shapes, sizes and colors, so too, do their sexual desires, turn-ons and hot spots.  While some women are able to orgasm solely from intercourse, many others need clitoral stimulation to reach the “Big O.”  Some women need other stimulants, like touching and kissing.  Others are able to climax when vibrators are introduced and used during lovemaking.  It’s impossible to list all the different scenarios for women to reach orgasm, but here are three ideas our Passion Parties experts recommend:

  • Relax.  For many women, orgasms are hard to reach because they cannot let go.  It’s not a secret that women are often stereotyped as over-analyzers, and if you’ve ever been accused of this, take note: Over-analyzing can inhibit your ability to climax.  If you are too busy thinking about what you look like or how long it’s taking, you are creating a mental roadblock on your journey to the Big O.

Start the night with a glass of wine, chamomile tea or whatever yummy beverage helps you to relax.  Once you and your mate are playing, if a negative or worrisome thought creeps into your mind, shake it off and focus on something you really like in the moment.  Maybe you like the way your partner’s tongue feels against your smooth skin, maybe you like your lover’s hot breath on your inner thigh, or maybe you’re enjoying the feeling of fullness as you’re penetrated.  Focus your thoughts and energy on that, and get lost in it.

  • Get on top.  There are certain sexual positions that give more control to your partner (think missionary and doggie-style), and there are certain positions that give more control to you, such as being on top.  When you’re on top, you’ll be able to control the angle, depth, speed and thrust intensity.  Additional bonus: If you want clitoral stimulation, you’re in the perfect position.
  • Teach by example.  Your orgasm might simply be thwarted due to your partner not knowing what you want or like.  If this is the case, there is an easy and sexy solution: Show your mate what you like.  Using your fingers or a toy, show your lover exactly how you like it – how fast, how deep, how intense.  After you’ve shown by example, ask your partner to put his or her fingers on top of yours or around yours (if using a toy) so your playmate can not only see how you like it, but s/he can also feel and eventually master what you like.

Finding your orgasm might take time and patience, and while that can be frustrating, try to remember that you’re not alone…and only practice makes perfect.

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About kelijackson

We’ve been taught for so long that our bodies are sinful. “Down there” is dirty. Sexual conversation is whispered, if discussed at all. Questions go unanswered. Negative perceptions remain uncorrected. Misconceptions run wild in the minds of women, men couples in our culture. That’s where we come in! We’re here to help shed the lies you’ve heard and grown to believe about your body, your sensuality, your sexuality, and intimacy within two of your most precious relationships: that with your partner, and perhaps more importantly, that with yourself. “We?” That’s right! I lead an international team of Passion Consultants called The Orgasm Factory. We are a movement of women, joining forces to help enhance the intimacy in those precious relationships all across the US and Canada. Do yourself a favor and ask yourself these questions: What would you do with an extra $1,000 a month? What if you could earn that extra $1,000 each month working an average of just one evening each week? What if that work consisted of having a blast, partying with other women, and helping to enhance their intimacy? What if, within your network of co-workers, you felt supported, encouraged, and were recognized for your accomplishments? What if you partnered with a company that rewarded you with BONUS CASH, luxury vacations, a company-paid car, and a ton of other prizes? What if your part-time job (or new career) consisted of making new friends and helping them to reach their goals and make their dreams come true? That’s what I do! That’s what I help my team to do! And you can join our team! I’ll personally train you, you’ll get training and support from our team, and you’ll have access to the incredible training opportunities Passion Parties Corporate provides for us! (I’ve had two training sessions with Dr. Drew! Corporate offers us the absolute BEST training imaginable!) So, CALL ME! (No. Seriously. Call me. You DEFINITELY want in on this.) I’ll help you get started, and I’ll be there for you every step of the way. I’ll have faith in you until you have faith in yourself. If you’re not sure, that’s ok. We can talk about it. I’ll answer all of your questions and give you all the information you want. If, after that, you’re still not sure, book a party and get all of the fabulous Hostess Rewards we offer, just for getting a few friends together and letting me or one of my team members show you what we’re all about! You’ll not only receive the benefits of being one of our hostesses, you’ll also have the opportunity to look at the business from inside the party. Then, we’ll talk again and see if it’s a good fit! Our mothers and grandmothers didn’t necessarily teach us everything we need to know about sex, and we certainly didn’t learn enough in school. When you host your own Passion Party, one of my team members or I will teach you and your friends how to discover the joy of enhancing the intimacy in those precious relationships! We’ll show you some of our absolute best products, from the mild to the wild, and help you find exactly what you need the most. All consultations are confidential, to ensure that everyone is comfortable. Your secrets will remain your secrets. You’ll laugh! You’ll learn! You’ll have a one-of-a-kind shopportunity to bring Passion to life! View all posts by kelijackson

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