Watching Adult Movies with Your Lover

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Have you ever seen a movie or TV show where a couple is in their hotel room trying to get sleep when all of the sudden sounds of passionate lovemaking come from behind the wall? This then turns on the previously-tired couple and they say something like, “I think we can do better than that!” or “Let’s give them a run for their money” or something equally cheesy.

We’ve all seen it – and possibly experienced it – and that’s because for many people, there’s just something about hearing, fantasizing or watching strangers in the throes of passion that gets our engines revved up. And the easiest and safest way to satisfy that desire within the confines of a monogamous relationship is with adult videos.

Conventional wisdom tells us that watching this kind of material can ruin relationships, but given the right circumstances, watching adult movies with your lover can actually increase passion, arousal and improve your sex life in general.

So if you’ve ever been interested in watching erotica with your lover, here are a few tips in setting the right environment and having a positive and passionate experience:

Know the levels of erotica.  Adult content really does come in all different levels of explicitness. Some only mimic the act of lovemaking while others leave nothing to the imagination. Both can be very scintillating; it’s finding what’s right for your level of comfort and your relationship that is key.

If you’re not sure you’ll enjoy watching adult movies with your partner but you’re curious, start with something light and mainstream, like a steamy R-rated movie. Watch “9 1/2 Weeks” or “The Notebook” and take note of your libido during the sex scenes while your partner is sitting and watching next to you. Try to determine what your lover’s reaction is to those scenes. Is his/her heart beating faster, breath shorter; is your partner shuffling around or twitching a bit? If you enjoy this experience and think your lover might too, discuss taking your viewing experience to the next level, like the “after dark” type of movies shown on premium channels.

Find something you both will like. This should not be about pleasing one person above another. This should be about exciting and stimulating both of you. Both of your turn ons, turn offs, desires, views, etc. should be considered and taken into account when deciding on what to watch. People have different interests, fantasies, turn ons, and there is adult content that caters to it all. So spend a little time discussing and finding something you and your playmate would like to watch.

Learn from the experience. Watching adult movies doesn’t just have to be about enticing your sexual senses. You may find that you actually learn something from it. Indulging in erotica may expose you to turn ons and fantasies you didn’t know you and/or your lover had.

Communicate. If you are interested in watching adult content with your significant other but are also concerned about the impact it might have on your relationship, talk about it. If you think you might get jealous, tell your partner to ask for more awareness of your needs for reassurance. The best partners are the ones that aim to please, and if you are open with your lover and able to communicate what you need – both physically and emotionally – your other half is going to be able to please you a whole heck of a lot better than if you just expected it.

Adult movies are just a sensual tool. Having concern about jealousy or the impact on your relationship is perfectly normal, but remember that the goal of watching erotica is to excite you and your significant other and build intimacy. Think of adult movies like you would a sex toy. A sex toy is purely a physical tool to get you more aroused and to have better sex. Adult videos are purely a visual tool to get you more aroused and to have better sex. Just as you are not going to leave your lover for a sex toy, your lover is not going to leave you for erotica. And just as you don’t expect your partner’s genitals to vibrate, your partner does not expect you to be able to get in the pretzel and have sex.

Bottom line: Have fun! I cannot stress enough that sex should be fun. If it’s not, stop doing what you’re doing and try something else. Watching adult movies with your lover can be a lot of fun. It doesn’t have to be a regular thing – just something to keep in your bag of tricks and spice things up at the right time.




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About kelijackson

We’ve been taught for so long that our bodies are sinful. “Down there” is dirty. Sexual conversation is whispered, if discussed at all. Questions go unanswered. Negative perceptions remain uncorrected. Misconceptions run wild in the minds of women, men couples in our culture. That’s where we come in! We’re here to help shed the lies you’ve heard and grown to believe about your body, your sensuality, your sexuality, and intimacy within two of your most precious relationships: that with your partner, and perhaps more importantly, that with yourself. “We?” That’s right! I lead an international team of Passion Consultants called The Orgasm Factory. We are a movement of women, joining forces to help enhance the intimacy in those precious relationships all across the US and Canada. Do yourself a favor and ask yourself these questions: What would you do with an extra $1,000 a month? What if you could earn that extra $1,000 each month working an average of just one evening each week? What if that work consisted of having a blast, partying with other women, and helping to enhance their intimacy? What if, within your network of co-workers, you felt supported, encouraged, and were recognized for your accomplishments? What if you partnered with a company that rewarded you with BONUS CASH, luxury vacations, a company-paid car, and a ton of other prizes? What if your part-time job (or new career) consisted of making new friends and helping them to reach their goals and make their dreams come true? That’s what I do! That’s what I help my team to do! And you can join our team! I’ll personally train you, you’ll get training and support from our team, and you’ll have access to the incredible training opportunities Passion Parties Corporate provides for us! (I’ve had two training sessions with Dr. Drew! Corporate offers us the absolute BEST training imaginable!) So, CALL ME! (No. Seriously. Call me. You DEFINITELY want in on this.) I’ll help you get started, and I’ll be there for you every step of the way. I’ll have faith in you until you have faith in yourself. If you’re not sure, that’s ok. We can talk about it. I’ll answer all of your questions and give you all the information you want. If, after that, you’re still not sure, book a party and get all of the fabulous Hostess Rewards we offer, just for getting a few friends together and letting me or one of my team members show you what we’re all about! You’ll not only receive the benefits of being one of our hostesses, you’ll also have the opportunity to look at the business from inside the party. Then, we’ll talk again and see if it’s a good fit! Our mothers and grandmothers didn’t necessarily teach us everything we need to know about sex, and we certainly didn’t learn enough in school. When you host your own Passion Party, one of my team members or I will teach you and your friends how to discover the joy of enhancing the intimacy in those precious relationships! We’ll show you some of our absolute best products, from the mild to the wild, and help you find exactly what you need the most. All consultations are confidential, to ensure that everyone is comfortable. Your secrets will remain your secrets. You’ll laugh! You’ll learn! You’ll have a one-of-a-kind shopportunity to bring Passion to life! View all posts by kelijackson

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