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#RapeCulture

With the Stanford rape case all over the place in the last few days, it’s become more apparent just how fucked up our culture is. A white, well-to-do, cis-gender, heterosexual male athlete can brutally rape someone in a dark alley and have very few repercussions. That’s disgusting. And unfortunately, common. A very high number of rape victims don’t report the crime…for many reasons – shame, fear, not wanting to recount the attack and relive it, but perhaps most importantly, because much of society will side with the attacker rather than the victim. Oh, sure, some will feel badly for the victim, but look at what has happened with this case: he got a slap on the wrist from the judge and his father described it as “20 minutes of action.” Seriously? That’s the reaction for such a heinous crime? If he were black, this story would be very different. If she were black, we probably wouldn’t have heard the story at all. If the story had involved members of the LGBTQ+ community, we either wouldn’t have heard about it or it would fuel the fire of the right winged anti-gay political candidates who don’t want people to be able to pee in public restrooms. But the story doesn’t involve any of “those” people, and instead is a simple and revolting look at the magnitude of the rape culture we have around us. And running through us.

As women, we’re taught that being pretty stands above any other qualities. Men tell us to “smile, honey” as we walk down the street. And we do. Why? Because, “Look mother fucker, I’m running late for an appointment and need to find this address, so I don’t need your objectification clouding my focus,” just isn’t ladylike. And beyond that, we’re taught that making a man angry could threaten our safety. We’re taught that “boys will be boys,” that when they poke, punch, chase, kick, or throw things at us as children, it’s because they like us. And we’re all taught that’s okay. That’s what’s supposed to happen. So when we grow up, we’re supposed to take it as a compliment when they hurt us. So we smile, because being paid the compliment of, “See, you’re so much prettier now,” though demeaning as fuck, is much easier to deal with than the possible vengeful reaction that may come if we stand up for ourselves. And because of this, it’s somehow our fault if anything bad happens. Instead of teaching men and boys to control themselves, we’ve taught women and girls to tiptoe around and control ourselves in order to prevent any sort of outburst that could put us in danger. Because men and boys are dangerous.

This kind of societal outlook is not only damaging to us, but also to them! “Hello there, little boy. You’re a menace. You’re allowed to behave in complete asinine ways and injure anyone you’d like along the way. You are not allowed to show any kind of emotion, and in fact, we encourage you to suppress all emotion until it wells inside you as rage. Meaningful connections with other humans are definitely out of the question, as that would put you at risk for feeling and expressing emotion. Stick your dick in anything that moves, whether the recipient is into it or not. You have the power. Power is all that matters.” <– What an awful message!

I sincerely hope, for the Stanford rape victim’s sake and the sake of all of us, that the media and social attention this is getting doesn’t just last a few days and fizzle out like so many other fads. I hope we can wake up and make some meaningful change. We need good sex education and consent education in our schools. Abstinence only education, or a complete lack of information altogether has put us on this path of destruction. Let’s change that. Let’s start teaching children about their bodies and boundaries, about the fact that everyone has different boundaries and those must be respected, about the changes their bodies go through, and when it comes time for them to start asking questions about sex, let’s teach them with quality about safe practices. Let’s work together toward prevention and put an end to rape culture.

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Sensual Zodiac: Scorpio Woman

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Sensual Zodiac: Aries Woman

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Zodiac Secrets of the Sensual Aries Woman

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You are among the people most likely to have a fan club.

Why? Because anyone who has ever made love to a Sensual Aries woman remains devoted forever!

People find you amazing.

Everything about you commands attention. You wear your sensuality like other women wear diamonds. From your flashing eyes, to your charming smile, to your wild, warm ways – you captivate and fascinate.

Dynamic, Dazzling, and Daring

You are unquestionably one of the most exciting women in the Sensual Zodiac. If they ever name a fragrance after you, a great name would be “Fire and Ice” because there’s nothing in between about you. You’re either burning hot or you’re ice cold.

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Where in the world do you get all that get-up-and-go? It’s amazing to watch how easily you multi-task. You have a gift for juggling five or six things at once without breaking a sweat. Your vibrant positive energy makes being in your presence as warm as being surrounded by the radiant rays of the sun.

A kind heart with a huge appetite for love…

Your sensual nature comes as easy to you as sleep. Passion is part of your essential makeup. For you, life without romance is dismal. When you’re not in love, you feel like a tree without leaves: bare, naked, and incomplete. But when you are in love, you ooze sensuality.

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How to seduce you?

With the three mental aphrodisiacs: attention, affection, and admiration. Your ultimate lover is one who is willing to take a risk with you. Your partner must be evolved enough to give you love on many levels, while leaving NOTHING on the table. To love a Sensual Aries woman, like you, takes an exceptional person.

Three little known bedroom secrets about you:

  1. You are used to being in control, but you long to surrender.
  2. Surprises are a great way to seduce you.
  3. Because you’re already an adventurous person, you are likely to find yourself becoming curious about fetishes or apt to try something taboo.

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Excerpted and amended from Your Sensual Zodiac by Suzie Johnson.


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